The 7 HabitsOf Highly EffectiveTeens

7 Habits of HighlyEffective TeensFor teens, life is not aplayground,it's a jungle.

7 Habits of Highly Effective TeensAs a teen, you will need directionas you navigate through yourschool years.And you may encounter manyroadblocks in your path.

7 Habits ofHighly Effective TeensWhat is a habit?How long do habits take to form?What types of habits are there?

What is a Habit?

Exercise Divide into groups Get together and decideon a definition of HABIT Write it down

Class definitions of HABIT

Define - Habit Things you do repeatedly, but youare often unaware that you dothem A constant performanceof an act, acquired throughfrequent repetition

Habits can make youor break you Good habits can help you be successful– Do homework-get good grades-go to college of choice Bad habits can detract from yoursuccess– Don’t do homework, get bad grades,don’t go to college of choice Some habits just are– These don’t help you or hurt you.Always tie right shoe first

List your HabitsList 3 good habits1.2.3.List 3 bad habits1.2.3.List 3 that don’t matter1.2.3.

Changing a Habit It’s not always easy to change ahabit, but it’s always possible Cross your arms Now cross them the other way.How does it feel? If you fold them the opposite wayfor 30 days, it would become anew habit

What are the 7 Habits? ProactiveBegin with the end in mindPut first things firstThink win-winSeek first to understand then to beunderstood6. Synergize7. Sharpen the Saw

How can these habitshelp you? Get control of yourlife Improve yourrelationships Make smarterdecisions Get along with yourparents Find balance amongschool, work, friendsand everything else Define your values Get more done inless time Increase your selfconfidence Be happy

Habit #1Be Proactive

Proactive vs. ReactiveCalm, cool, andcollectedvs.Exploding frompressure

Proactive vs. ReactiveThink before actingvs.Acting on impulse

Reactive Language

Proactive Language

Habit #2Begin With the EndIn Mind

Begin with the End in MindIf you aren't clear about where you wantto end up in life,about your values, goals,and what you stand for,you will wander and waste time.

Habit # 2 – Begin Withthe End in MindCreate a personal missionstatement which will actas a road map to direct and guideyour decision-making process.





See Page 20-21 of Workbook

最初の最初のものを置くHabit #3Put First ThingsFirst

最初の最初のものを置くPut First Things FirstThis habit helps teens prioritizeand manage their time so thatthey focus on and complete themost important things in theirlives.

Create an Agenda

What kinds of thingscould a studentinclude in an agenda?DISCUSSSHARE!

Take the next 5 minutes and writedown some things in your agendathat you know are coming up thisweek or next.During the week, refer to youragenda often.Morning, afternoon, evening.

The 4Quadrants

Quadrant 2is the key

Putting first things first meansliving life according to whatmatters most to you.

Habit #4Think Win-Win

Win-Lose Win-Lose is competitive. Thinkof it as a totem pole "as long as Iam higher than you on the totempole, I don't care how good Iam". Someone who thinks win-losedisregards the feelings ofothers, is jealous, and tries toget ahead at the expense ofothers. Heads I win, Tails you lose!

Lose-Win Lose-Win says, "Have your waywith me. Wipe your feet on me.Everyone else does. This type of thinking results inkeeping quiet because it'seasier than speaking up andletting others win withouttrying.

Lose-Lose Lose-Lose says, "If I'm goingdown, you're coming with me!" This results in nobody winning. A downward spiral

Win-Win Win-Win is a belief that all peoplecan win. This results in takingothers' feelings into consideration,while still acknowledging that yourfeelings are just as valid. This requires some compromise.

EXERCISERead Marie and Mom scenarioon page 147 from The 7 HabitsOf Highly Effective TeensHas something like this everhappened in your home?Share!

It is possible to create anatmosphere of win-winin every relationship.

EXERCISERead the basketball examplefrom The 7 Habits Of HighlyEffective Teenson page 152-153Discuss!

This habit encourages the ideathat in any given discussion orsituation both parties can arriveat a mutually beneficial solution.

Learn to celebrate theaccomplishments of othersinstead of being threatenedby them.


End of Day 1

Habit #5Seek First to Understand,Then be Understood

5 Poor Listening Skills1. OutPretend ListeningSelective ListeningWord ListeningSelf-CenteredListeningEXERCISE pages 34-35

Active ListeningHabit 5 ensures youlearn the most importantcommunication skillthere is:active listening.

Genuine Listeners1) Listen with your eyes,heart, and ears.2) Communication is53% Body Language40% Tone / Feeling7% Words

The Kanji for the verb“To listen”is comprised ofsymbols thatrepresent:Ears,Eyes,Heart andUndivided Attention.

Habit #6Synergize

The Uses of a PaperclipYou have 2 minutes to write asmany uses for a paper clipas you can.

The Uses of a PaperclipNow, with a partner, you haveanother 2 minutes to write asmany uses for a paper clipas you can.

The Uses of a PaperclipWas it easier with a partner?Do you like to work with others?Why or why not?

Uses for a paper clip1. Use to clip pieces of paper together2. Book marker3. Hair clip4. Lock picker5. Use to scratch things6. Bend into a ring7. Bend lots together to make a bracelet/necklace8. Make barbed wire9. Replace wires in a circuit with joined up paper clips10. Reset watches, organizers etc.11. Make a chain12. Magnetize to make a compass13. Acupuncture14. Earrings15. Solder together to make glasses16. Straighten and give to a mouse as a tap-dancing stick17. Make into a sculpture18. Make into a hook and eye19. Melt down to produce other things20. Use as needle21. Make into key ring22. Use for end of compass23. Sew onto material to make futuristic/metallic dress24. Tie-clip25. Spike to hold bits of paper etc.26. Make into a wind chime ornament27. Use as nails28. Use as a paintbrush29. Make into a spring30. Put marks on it to make a ruler31. Make netting by weaving them together32. Making into washing pegs33. Use to eject DVD stuck in drive34. Use as hands of a clock35. Support for small plants36. Hair pin37. Bend into thingy to find water underground38. Solution mixer39. Get batches together to use a weights40. Use as a currency41. Stick paper onto it to make into a flag42. Use as toothpick43. Use in piercings44. Stick lost onto piece of wood to make metal brush45. Use as brace wire46. Use as darts47. Use for curtain hooks48. Disguise as a kilt-pin49. Torture implement50. Use as plectrum51. Magnetize it to make a magnet52. Drill a hole in it to make a drinking straw53. Disguise as a pipe cleaner54. Make stilts for mice55. Bend into a hook/spoon thingy for science experiments56. Stick lots together to make an Alice band57. Use as cocktail stick

Synergy is achievedwhen two or more peoplework together to create somethingbetter than either could alone.

Everyone is differentand has different strengths andweakness. Finding people whocompliment your strengths andweakness will create more energyand thoughts.

DiversityThere are three different ways todeal with diversity1. The Shunner2. The Tolerator3. The Celebrator

The Shunner They fear differences, skincolor, religion. They feel their way is best andright they make fun of thosewho are different. They may become physicallyviolent in changing people’sminds. They may join gangs,anti-social groups.

The Tolerator They feel everyone hasthe right to be different. They keep tothemselves and don’tmingle with other“different people”. They never create anysynergy because theydon’t interact witheach other.仕方が無

The Celebrator Celebrators value differences. People who think differentlybring different ideas andexperiences with them andthey can create somethingneither one could do bythemselves. They may not agree with theideas, but they want to hearthem.

Synergy allows us to valuedifferences and betterappreciate others.

Getting to Synergy:Action Planning1. ? Define the problem or opportunity2. Their Way - seek first to understandthe ideas of others3. My Way- seek to be understood bysharing your ideas4. * Brainstorm- create new options andideas5. High Way- find the best solution

Definitions Imaginative - (creative thinker - comes up with new ideas)Investigative - Asking questions, trying to figure things outAnalytical - Thinks about how to break things down, the steps etcAdaptable - Able to adjust to a new environmentInquisitive - Someone who asks a lot of questions, wants to knowthe answers for thingsCritical - Someone who always looks at the good and the bad of asituationPractical - Someone who is more interested in 'doing' rather than'thinking'Inventive - Someone who comes up with new ideas easilyPrecise - Someone who pays attention to detailSystematic - Someone who follows plans strictlyLogical - Someone who follows reason instead of emotionAssociate - Someone who makes connections between thingsOriginate - Someone who comes up with new original ideasSpontaneous - Someone who does things without planning!

It doesn't have to be“your way” or “my way”but rather a better way

Habit #7Sharpen the Saw

Teens should never gettoo busy livingnot to take time to renewthemselves.

Habit # 7 – Sharpen the SawSharpening the saw meansregularly renewing andstrengthening the four keydimensions of life– body, brain, heart, and soul.

Renew YourselfYou should never get so busy in your life thatyou don't take time to renew yourself in 4different areas: BodyExercise, eat healthy, sleep well,relax BrainRead, educate, write,learn new skills HeartBuild relationships, give service,laugh SoulMeditate, keep a journal, pray,quality media

When a teen "sharpens the saw"he or she is keeping theirpersonal self sharp so that shecan better deal with life.

Self EvaluationComplete the following self evaluation in your notebook.The area of my life (body, mind, heart, soul) the most developed isbecause.The area of my life (body, mind, heart, soul) that needs more effort isbecause.The goal I want to set for myself which relates to habit 7 is:One strategy I can use to attain this goal is:This is how I will measure my success with my goal:

7 Habits of HighlyEffective TeensA Quick Review

7 Habits of HighlyEffective TeensHabit # 1 – Be ProactiveHabit # 2 – Begin With the end in MindHabit # 3 – Put First things FirstHabit # 4 – Think Win-WinHabit # 5 – Seek First to Understand, ThenBe UnderstoodHabit # 6 – SynergizeHabit # 7 – Sharpen the Saw

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